Interview with another cohabitant

Monday, September 24, 2007
Here is a short interview with my friend, Erin, who I met in college and still remain great friends with and lives with her B.F. I just asked a couple questions to get a better idea of how other couples coexist and what works for them.

How long have you lived with the B.F. and how long have you dated?
We have officially been living together for about a little over a year. We have been together for almost two years. We moved in together after only about 9 months of dating.

Why did you move in with him?
Because he asked me to and I thought it was a splendid idea. It made sense for us. I was about to purchase my own place when we realized how silly it would be for both of us to pay rent especially since we spent every night together anyway.

Name an adjustment both of you needed to make and how you have solved it-- or haven't.
I needed to make major adjustments. I had to get rid of my cat, move about 40 min away from the location I was living/working/ and friends were, and put major mileage on my lease. There wasn't enough closet space for me so his dad had to re-do the closets. We both had to adjust to sharing a bed together...every night. I had to learn to share TV time and that I needed to clean up after myself a lot quicker then I normally would.

What would your B.F. say is the hardest part living with you?
I tend to be lazy, my room is normally a mess, and I am always right.

What is the hardest part of living with the B.F.?
I cannot sprawl out and consume the whole bed like I love to do. Another hard thing is we don't have a huge house so when you want private/alone time it's really hard to get. I love living with my B.F.! I wouldn't change it for the world and what's to complain about.... It's like a slumber party every night with your best friend!

How did you decide on who does what? Who cleans/cooks/takes out the trash/household chores in general.
We basically respect one another and both do as much as we can when we have free time. At first he did most of it until he got fed up and said something to me. Now I think we have a good system. He always mows the lawn though... That's a negative for me.


Erin said...

Well done... Well done. You can interview me any time you want!

Karen said...

I lived with a boyfriend twice.
The first time, it lasted just over a year and was a disaster.
The second time it last just two years and went well (until the day I left) and almost ended in marriage.
Living together is not for me only because it excels to no end my desires to be married and really confuses my heart.

But that is just me. For some couples, living together is exactly right.

Allison M. said...

It's definitely walking and defending a very thin line. My friend was just doing my eyebrows yesterday and asked the question, "So when are you getting married?"

Not any time soon. Thanks for your comment.