managing expectations

Tuesday, October 23, 2007
I recently was invited into a guy's mind (what a scary place that is). He explained to me how men think and what their actions mean, and I'll be the first to admit that I think guys are just as messed up as girls.

I've never considered myself to be much of a clingy girlfriend. (Other people could think differently.) But I don't stalk, pry into what you are doing or who you are with in a psycho-girlfriend-kind-of-way.....unless you give me reason to. But this week in particular, I felt like we weren't really paying that much attention to each other. He did his things in and out work and so did I. I just felt disconnected. So I started poking around for answers, "did I do something to offend you? Are you OK?" (Really knowing that he was the fucked up one and I was just trying to get answers out of him.)

Here's what he tells me in a Dr. Phil sort-of-way:
"Allison, sometimes I want to hang out with you a lot, then some time I don't. Don't take it personally, but guys go through spurts where they want a lot of something or want a little of something."
Me -- I'm nodding and laughing.
"Don't be offended by it, it's really nothing. I don't love you any less because I don't hang out every second, it is what it is."

There are other parts of that conversation that I forgot, but I think you get the gist of it.

There you have it. The gospel according to one male's mind.

2 comments:

BF said...

You consistently butcher my Dr. Phil moments!!

Anonymous said...

Do tell BF - what did you actually say/mean?