managing expectations

Tuesday, October 23, 2007
I recently was invited into a guy's mind (what a scary place that is). He explained to me how men think and what their actions mean, and I'll be the first to admit that I think guys are just as messed up as girls.

I've never considered myself to be much of a clingy girlfriend. (Other people could think differently.) But I don't stalk, pry into what you are doing or who you are with in a psycho-girlfriend-kind-of-way.....unless you give me reason to. But this week in particular, I felt like we weren't really paying that much attention to each other. He did his things in and out work and so did I. I just felt disconnected. So I started poking around for answers, "did I do something to offend you? Are you OK?" (Really knowing that he was the fucked up one and I was just trying to get answers out of him.)

Here's what he tells me in a Dr. Phil sort-of-way:
"Allison, sometimes I want to hang out with you a lot, then some time I don't. Don't take it personally, but guys go through spurts where they want a lot of something or want a little of something."
Me -- I'm nodding and laughing.
"Don't be offended by it, it's really nothing. I don't love you any less because I don't hang out every second, it is what it is."

There are other parts of that conversation that I forgot, but I think you get the gist of it.

There you have it. The gospel according to one male's mind.


BF said...

You consistently butcher my Dr. Phil moments!!

Anonymous said...

Do tell BF - what did you actually say/mean?