I have friends who love, absolutely love, sleeping next to their boyfriend/fuck buddy/flavor of the month. I also have a few honest friends who admit that sleeping next to someone every night doesn't guarantee you a great night of sleep.
Since I can remember, I've always had a full bed, which has allowed me to stretch, wrap the blankets all around me and throw a pillow or two in the middle of the night. So when I have a permanent sleeping partner, he makes sure to remind me of my thrashing ways in the morning.
"Allison, you punched me last night." (I think he made that one up.)
"Allison, you wrap the blankets around you like a cocoon." (Duh.)
"Allison, you have restless leg syndrome and kick me throughout the night." (Whatever.)
Our sleeping arrangements often come up in conversation. Here's how it typically goes:
Any random person -- "So you live together?"
Me--- "Yes we do."
Person -- "Is it a one-bedroom, two-bedroom?"
Me--"We have two bedrooms. There's no way my shopping habit can share a closet with him."
Person -- "Who has what room?"
Me -- "I get the master bedroom because, like I said, I need to have the closet of Elle magazine, and he has the other room."
Person -- "But, you like, sleep together every night, right?"
And, at this point, I get annoyed and slightly defensive. The tone is always the same when any random person reaches the Q&A portion of my sleeping arrangement. Why does it matter to you where I sleep? This is where I bring in the experts. I am a part of the 23% percent of couples who sleep apart, at least some portion of the week. Here, take the quiz.
Stolen from the Today Show, "There are a lot more couples sleeping separately than you might guess, says Mark Mahowald, director of the Minnesota Regional Sleep Disorders Center in Minneapolis. An estimated 23 percent of American couples sleep apart, according to a survey by the National Sleep Foundation." For all of the people who responded to the survey, 47% of men sleep best when they sleep next to their partner, and only 35% of women sleep best next to their partner. Why you ask? Snoring (38%)!
Women mostly get screwed because men are such loud snorers. My friend Katie said the first time she slept at her B.F.'s house...she thought he died! Could you imagine? She was watching his chest to make sure he was still alive because he stopped breathing at some points in the night. And, when he's done doing the scary-I-almost-died-sleeping thing, he moves into this loud, I-can't-sleep-through snore for the rest of the night. See what we must put up with!
So, in my crazy conclusion, it's not about who you sleep with, it's about the quality of sleep you get when you are sleeping with that person.