Interview with a soon-to-be cohabitator

Tuesday, January 29, 2008
Meet my friend Gretchen G. A couple weeks ago, or maybe it was a month, she asked me my opinion of living with my boyfriend and were the fireworks still there. More or less, she was asking me for my advice on living with your boyfriend. I tried and provided my opinion without pushing one or the other. In the end, I think her mind was made up but just needed to hear someone else's opinion. Needless to say, she's taking the plunge mid-February and here's some insight into her decision.

How long have you been dating the B.F.?
- We have been together a little over two years.

What was the final decision maker? ( Don't say financial reasons because all the experts say that's a big no-no.)
There are two of them:
- His roommate left and so the next natural move was to move in together so he didn't lose his townhouse (financial reason- haha)...
- Also... we are both big believers in living together before you get engaged. So in our tentative time line... we decided that it was time to move in and see what happened? We are both really excited!!! I guess you could say it was a "shit or get off the pot" kind of decision... haha


What did your/his parents say? Did you consult them for their opinion?
- My parents lived together and have been kind of excited for us to see if we can make it work. (mom specifically thinks a good step.)
- His parents are much more traditional, and his sister was engaged before they lived together... so they had a slightly different opinion. His mom a little nervous about it and his dad was more comfortable with it. They both figured that he was too old to tell him what to do. Plus, I know them very well and we get along....
- No we didn't consult them... we just decided and did it.

What do you think is going to be your biggest adjustment? And what do you think will be his biggest adjustment?
- my biggest adjustments? sharing one tiny bathroom (no storage). sharing food (I am a cheapskate- and i only buy Kroger brand). sharing TV (not gonna lie- love my lifetime movies and Oprah). ha ha
- his biggest adjustments? sleeping in the same bed all the time. feeling the pressure to be engaged from other people.

Do you have locks on your doors? (Hint: you might need them.)
- ha ha... well there are locks... I have never seen them locked and mike claims he is the key holder. ha ha. I WILL find them.

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