Office romances -- Sh*ting where you eat

Thursday, February 14, 2008
Got to love my dad. He sent me a text about this article on the front cover of Plain Dealer's Business section today. (For a 51-year-old, he's getting pretty good at texting and understands how much time it saves, rather than picking up the phone to call me. This all coming from the guy who used to yell at me when I'd have $200+ cell phone bills from all the texting. I guess he forgot about those, huh?)

Anyway, this article touches on a subject that is close to my heart, literally, because I am in an office romance. Yes, that is right, I not only work with the B.F. but I live with him, too. I wish I would've been quoted in this article. (Hello Katherine! If you do a follow-up, be sure to give me a call.)

Office romances can be done in a tasteful way. For us, we tried (we really did) to keep it a secret for as long as possible. During the beginning of our courtship, I was just ending my internship and didn't want to be known as "that intern," especially since I had a huge interest in working for the company. I was very private about our budding relationship and when asked, I'd coyly just say "no, not dating" and let the chips fall where they may. We tried to be extremely descrete with our actions, too. For instance, we tried not to be seen leaving work functions together or even talking more than usual because we trying to avoid the watercooler nonsense of "are-they-or-aren't-they-dating."

And, dating is such a coin toss anyway these days. Think about it. What if we broke up? What if it was bad? I'd be venting to this person, he'd be venting to another colleague -- it makes my head spin just thinking about it. So, given all of our options, I think we handled it to the best our abilities. Fast forward 1.5 years and I still refer to him as "my BF," even though I'm pretty sure all of my colleagues know we are dating.

So, to all of you are thinking of dating the guy or girl in the next cubicle, think really hard about it. As long as you are both on the same page, I think you'll be OK in your future endeavors. Plus, if it turns out that bad, just find a new job! Or, prepare for a lot of watercooler talk around whether you did or didn't hook up with the guy in IT.

1 comments:

michelle v said...

As you know, I also had an office romance that turned out not to be as secret as I though. I ended up marrying my office romance... wonder who will be next???