Interview with another cohabitant

Wednesday, March 12, 2008
Meet my friend Steffie. She has been dating her B.F. longer than most marriages last these days and they literally just moved in together. She received some good advice from a few older women -- see question 4. Steffie, my B.F. always complains that I throw my bags and kick off my shoes when I first get in. I also have every intention to pick them up but not at that exact moment. It must be a girl thing.

How long have you been dating the B.F.?
Jeremy and I have been dating "officially" for about three and half years, but have been "seeing each other" (if you want to call those crazy college years) for about six.

How long have you been living together?
We have been living together for a month.

What was the final decision maker? ( Don't say financial reasons because all the experts say that's a big no-no.)
Well, we practically stayed with each other every night, anyways, and we decided that it was the next step in our relationship in order to see if we would be capable of putting up with each other before we take the next BIG step!

What did your/his parents say? Did you consult them or anyone else for their opinion?
HA...I haven't consulted my parents on a big decision since high school! I did consult, mostly, my sister and my friends. When I told people my situation, many people, older woman mostly, weren't afraid to lend some advice. I am going to admit that I was scared due to the whole saying, "Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free," but I did get some good pointers:

1. Don't do anything in the 1st four months that you don't
want to do for the rest of your life.
2. Just realize -- they are a different breed.
3. They only think of three things, sex, sports and their "toys."
Everything, in their heads, are connected to these three things.

What do you think is going to be your biggest adjustment? And what do you think will be his biggest adjustment?
The biggest adjustment so far has been that he is anal about things that I couldn't care less about, such as when I come home from work, the first thing I like to do is fling my shoes off and put my bags (three of them) down, fully intending to pick them up later. HE CAN'T stand it so he starts talking to me as if I am a little kid. I'm like..."Jeremy, you are not my mother and I had every intention of picking that up later." His biggest adjustment is dealing with all my clothes, bath n body works products and make-up, oh and candles and "girly" touches to the house.

Do you have locks on your doors? (Hint: you might need them.)
YESSSS!!!!!!! Locks on every door, though we seldom use them, but just in case, they are there.