A reader and co-worker forwarded me this article from reporter John Campanelli from the Cleveland Plain Dealer yesterday.
When we start dating someone, we all have a list of traits we absolutely won't stand for in a guy or girl. For me, I'm not into smokers, womanizers, guys with no close group of friends, a guy with no career aspirations or someone who isn't comfortable in large groups of people. Non-social guys are a big no-no in my book. They don't mix with my crowd of peeps or personality type.
In this article, it's actually refreshing to read a man's opinion and he speaks with a woman who talks about her "deal breakers." He even interviews a relationship expert weighs in on some common "deal breakers" --
"While deal-breakers vary from person to person and relationship to relationship, there are a few universal ones, says Marshall:
• When you are working harder than the other person, always making the calls, setting up the dates, fixing the problems -- deal-breaker.
• When you find yourself preoccupied with the future because the present is unbearable ("Things will be great as soon as he gets a job," "She just needs a vacation and she'll be in the mood") -- deal-breaker.
• When the other person keeps projecting or casting you in roles ("You were checking out that guy," "I know you didn't call me last night because you went to the strip club with your friends") -- deal-breaker."
So, readers, name your deal breaker(s).