Well, it's about that time again. Wedding season! You know, when you and your BF head off to weddings and the "question" is asked by every great-aunt or friend of the family -- so, when you are you two getting married? My usual response is one of a few things: When he makes more money, or an innocent laugh, take a sip of wine and say "not any time soon," or maybe when he stops cheating on me. OK, so maybe the last response is only for the few good friends to spice things up in really uncomfortable settings.
But really, when is it OK to ask that question? I'm going to say never. Or, you better be my very close friend to ask that. It's never OK to ask that question if you just met a couple, especially if they are both standing there. The BF and I went to 12 weddings last summer -- two of them were on the same day so we had to go our separate ways. I can't count how many times people asked us as we both stood there when we were getting married.
I felt the most uncomfortable for my friend Katie though. It became a funny joke to us by the end of the summer because everyone always asked her about it. I think we might’ve even counted a few times how many times she was asked – it kept things interesting. People who she hasn’t seen in years kept probing her about it. She’s way too nice to snub them and has way more patience than I do.
Here’s how a typical conversation would go:
Faux friend who she hasn’t seen in years asks: “How long have you guys been together? Oh, wow, three years. When’s the big date? Oh, you guys aren’t engaged yet? Well, I’m sure your time will come. “What does that even mean?
We can never be too sure what is going on in other people’s relationships. So, in my mind, it’s safe to say you shouldn’t ask those questions to people you just met. It comes off rude, nosy and to be quite honest, it’s none of your damn business.
My wedding season starts Memorial Day weekend. Let the questioning begin….