the opportunities are endless

"Allison, you are looking at this all wrong. It's about making everyone an opportunity," says my adorable male friend as the ever popular topic of dating comes up.

Opportunities, eh? I should be looking at everyone I meet as an opportunity he says........

This conversation started on a lazy Sunday when we were day drinking at a favorite bar in Tremont when the topic, as it always does, turns to dating among my single friends.

Who am I dating? Am I dating? You haven't met anyone as we go around the circle asking what is new and interesting in our dating lives in between sips of our favorite summer beers.

Almost at the same time,  we started comparing the single dating options versus the gay dating options.

Jesus - the gays have soooo much more available to them! Honestly we, or as my friend says "breeders," need something to the equivalent of that Grindr app. (Editor's note - we do, it's called Blendr.) It's this magical little app that people share all the photos beforehand so it takes out the guessing game, to say the least. No doubt your gay friend has shown you this app, and I'm always amazed at what people will share on it, more power to them for putting it all out there. Right up front.

"Opportunities....." he repeated and we all started laughing.

Here is his advice for a night out - scope out the bar scene and as the night goes on, you weed them out one by one and they may even start to look better with a few drinks. Well, duh.

As my one friend points out, "I look like Heidi f*ing Klum after a few beers," so anyone can look like a damn opportunity.

So, I ask you - do you look at everyone as a opportunity?

6 comments:

ANG* said...

there is absolutely a grindr version for straighties - blendr. i don't recommend it, but it's out there!

cleshopaholic said...

Yes, I see everyone as an opportunity- FOR YOU!!!! So far none have worked out (turns out I don't have many single, straight, male friends right now), but one of these days....

Jessica (Bayjb) said...

Yes! I consider everything as an opportunity but sometimes, I need to remind myself to keep those eyes open and not judge so quickly

Fizzgig said...

you know when you see or meet someone worth investing time in. its hard to differentiate the two the longer you are single. but then when you pass a certain point you see it as a waste of time or someone worth pursuing! that's the art of being single!

Jen @ Why CLE? said...

I definitely went through a phase where I went out with anyone who asked and I did see anyone as an opportunity. I had a lot of fun and learned a lot too. Didn't meet The One during that time, but that's OK...it was still worth it.

kimi said...

a guy in my training class at hyland is single, living in lakewood and likes tall gals. i may just give him your blog url...