letters to yourself.

Wednesday, June 20, 2012
On the eve of her 34th birthday, my friend wrote a letter to herself and read it out loud to my us at dinner last week. Holy empowering. We were both excited, clapping out loud in laughter and going to remind of her of what she read aloud on that patio.
I'm not sure where she got the idea from (probably Pinterest because isn't everything from Pinterest at this point?) but I was instantly inspired to think about what I would write to myself as I approach a birthday in the next six months. (I already have a party idea for the big 3-0.)

So, in early anticipation of a birthday that is six months out, I'm going to commit to a few items moving forward. After all, half the battle is saying it out loud, isn't it?

Dear Allison Marie Anastasia (confirmation name, of course, counts in this instance),
  • continue to laugh more at yourself. So what if you trip all the time when you think no one is looking?!?
  • keep taking your ass to yoga at least once a week. it's helping to keep you centered and calm, just like your therapist said it would.
  • write every few days in your journal. you love it and always have.
  • put pen to paper or keys to word document and get cracking on your article ideas and submit them already. no time like the present to get published.
  • two words: European adventure. make it happen next year. you have friends who love to travel.
  • start getting up earlier each day. amazing how much more you can accomplish, right?
  • keep eliminating the clutter. in every sense of the word.
  • put it in a ponytail - you'll break the hair twirling in no time.
  • continue to block out the mindless chatter - that's just what it is. mindless.
  • exercising the word "no" - worked fabulously when negotiating my new lease
  • smile, show those overly large Peltz teeth and be happy every. day.
....like no one is watching

So, if you were writing a letter to youself, what the hell would it say? And it's totally appropriate to write one to yourself even if it's nowhere near your actual birthday.


Heather said...

I have no idea what I would say! I have to think about this.

And what are you writing???

Jen @ Why CLE? said...

What a great idea! I'll have to think what I would specifically say, but I like your mix of big and small reminders.

Anonymous said...

Dear _____,

It was only a matter of time, you can't run from this. That pinch you feel in your chest, that is your body telling you that you need to deal with this. It is not going to get any easier. Prepare yourself for the moment that is around the corner. Soon they will tell you that they are out of options, that they can't help her anymore. I know that it's impossible to accept, but you have to be strong. She needs you, your family needs you. Don't be afraid to ask for help. You can't be of service to those around you if you are not taking care of yourself. Don't wait to get help! As things get worse it's just going to get harder to take care of yourself.

Keep these things in mind.

You are still young and you have the rest of your life in front of you.

Death comes to us all

Life is not fair, but it is still beautiful

Cancer can kill her, but it can't take away who she is.

Cherish the time you have left. Don't take even a moment for granted.

It will be okay, even if you don't think so.

Continue to enjoy your life, but there is a fine line between having fun and running away from your problems.

Don't be afraid. Fear is poison.

Love yourself and those around you. Everyday is a gift.



Christina K said...

I wrote a very short letter to my future retired self three years ago...


The gist: travel and make art!

Anonymous said...

what a cute idea. and one that i might personally challenge myself to as well for my september birthday. i loved your "put pen to paper" note - ive had a dream to write and publish a childrens book. and its still something i want to actually accomplish!

Wearing Mascara said...

Love this idea and I have a birthday coming up (the big 28!). I would tell myself not to worry so much and to let things fall where they may.

Katelin said...

love this idea so much! great letter.

Fizzgig said...

love this!! i've written countless letters to myself, and i am a true fan!! there is nothing better than that to be real with yourself!!

LWLH said...

Love this letter to yourself, I could use some of that advice myself.

Jessica (Bayjb) said...

Love this idea! I need to follow suit. And yes, get yourself to Europe. Happy to answer any questions!