Comments on Confessions of a CLE Habitant: we can just be friends. right?

Here's the thing, I have TWO male friends, who...

2011-12-13T21:29:56.294-05:00

Here's the thing, I have TWO male friends, who are only friends. I have kissed only one of them but it was NYE and we were drunk. It meant nothing and never happened again. So yes, I think it is possible.

BUT, at one point, you will have romantic inklings, interests or even a crush on that other person. It's normal. But that doesn't mean you have to act on them

My best friend is male and we've been best fri...

2011-12-10T19:39:48.210-05:00

My best friend is male and we've been best friends for 15 years. At one point have we both liked each other - yes. But we both got over it and now he's married and things are completely brother-sisterly. And I love it that way.
I do think though that our relationship is the exception - definitely not the norm.

I have to go with what anonymous said...I think at...

2011-12-10T10:02:32.934-05:00

I have to go with what anonymous said...I think at the heart of it, if two 'friends' are single there might be something on either end to kick it up a notch but self control keeps them from doing it.

I think "can" is the operational word he...

2011-12-09T14:37:22.818-05:00

I think "can" is the operational word here. CAN men & women be just friends? Sure. But is the core or root of it strictly platonic? Doubtful. And doubtful from both sides. If given the opportunity, most men AND women would probably take advantage of a chance to "take it to the next level" with a good, trustworthy person they respect. Self-control and respect for the other person is what keeps most of us - men or women- from doing so, however.

But CAN it be avoided? Sure.

Possible for reals. One of my best high school fr...

2011-12-09T13:37:25.809-05:00

Possible for reals. One of my best high school friends is a guy. We have never been more then friends. I am neither blonde nor tiny, so I'm not really his type anyway :)

The problem with that statement -- that any guy, g...

2011-12-09T13:17:37.949-05:00

The problem with that statement -- that any guy, given the opportunity, would sleep with his female friend -- assumes that the guy would sleep with anything that walks.

Most women have a "type" of person they would date/be attracted to, and wouldn't sleep with just anyone, even for the sake of exploiting a friendship -- and females can be similarly generalized (ever hear "all women are crazy"???), much like men in this example. Shocker: there are men on this planet who are not whores. And assuming that ALL men are the same is archaic thinking and leads to this sort of nonsense. Short story: yes, I have male friends. Also yes, I have male friends who I have either slept with or haven't slept with. Has no base on the friendship; it's the mutual attraction.

And frankly, I'd hate to be an adult male lumped into this same group of men. Know what I'm saying?
(If this doesn't make sense, I'm sorry. I'm kinda hungover and comprehensive-thought lacking today lol)

Married friends don't count bc the option is t...

2011-12-09T12:26:36.786-05:00

Married friends don't count bc the option is taken off the table. I used to believe they could but if both are single, at least one party has thought about the hookup. FOR SURE!!

This post so reminds me of "When Harry Met Sa...

2011-12-09T11:59:31.061-05:00

This post so reminds me of "When Harry Met Sally". I personally believe they can be. One of my best friends is a guy and nothing has ever happened between us.

I'm pretty much with the guys on this one. ;) ...

2011-12-09T09:44:31.189-05:00

I'm pretty much with the guys on this one. ;)

Though I do have a good friend at work who's a guy - BUT he's married and we never text or hang out outside of work. So...I think we're safe. :)